💬 Messages, Bulletins & Pen Pals

Private messages, friend broadcasts, and slow-post letters.

Private messages

• Message any member from their profile, or press ＋ New on the Messages page and pick a friend. Conversations are visible only to the two of you and are never searchable — not even by moderators browsing the site.
• Every private message disappears 24 hours after it is sent — read or not, for both of you. Each one shows how long it has left and fades through its last hour.
• Press 👻 to send a snap: a photo they can open once, full screen for a few seconds, and then it's gone. You see Delivered or Opened; you can't reopen your own. An unopened snap disappears after 24 hours too.
• A sender can delete their own message (and its snap) at any time, which removes it for both sides.
• The community rules apply in private too — and blocking someone stops their messages entirely.

Bulletins

A bulletin is the old MySpace broadcast: one note posted to all your friends at once — moving day, a gig announcement, "I'm back online." Bulletins show only to you and your friends.

Pen pals

• The Pen Pals corner is for letters, not chat: a letter takes about 12 hours to arrive. Anticipation is the point.
• Raise your flag in the directory (with a short intro) to receive first letters; once a correspondence exists, replies flow freely.
• Changed your mind? You can recall a letter any time before it arrives.
• Letters are as private as messages: only the two correspondents, never searchable.

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